Energy healing and anxiety are a perfect pair. Energy healing gently allows us to begin working on the root causes of our triggers and anxiety while honoring our progress and the process of healing. 

Specifically, energy healing lets us tune in to our energetic field, find the blocks, and figure out where they came from so we can heal them. 

Even if we visit a healer and they can heal our hip pain for a few days, there is usually an emotional and psychological component that we have to do for ourselves for lasting and meaningful healing to occur.

I don’t recommend doing energy healing on yourself if you are triggered or having a panic attack. Once our anxiety is interfering with our ability to stay present, it’s almost impossible to stay present enough to scan our energy and try to bring in healing. 

This transformative tool we are discussing is meant to be used as part of a MENTAL HEALTH SELF CARE ROUTINE, whether that is daily or weekly or whatever works best for you.

We are combining two powerful mental health and energy healing strategies for radical anxiety transformation.

 

 TAPPING

When I was first trying tapping, it definitely felt awkward. But I kept a sticky note on my mirror with the basic tapping phrase with a list of the points so I could practice every morning. That, by the way, was in the thick of one of my most difficult times with anxiety. I eventually started looking forward to beginning my day with that routine.

Why tapping works:

Sometimes we have extra feelings about our anxiety that surround the actual anxiety. 

What I mean is that, sometimes when our anxiety is triggered, we don’t just have anxiety, but we have GUILT or SHAME about having anxiety. Some of us even have ANXIETY about our anxiety.

On an energetic level, our anxiety plus the feelings we are having about our anxiety create an energetic black hole where all of our energy, confidence, and clear-headedness can get sucked away.

The unhealthy and limited thinking patterns we have about our anxiety (like shame or embarrassment) actually make the wound of anxiety trickier to heal, because now we have two layers that need to be healed instead of just the one.

We can’t begin working on the inner energy disruption, the anxiety, because we believe the limiting thoughts we are having that surround it, which are the outer energy disruption. 

Tapping heals and removes the outer layer so we have access to healing the inner layer. 

We have a voice inside us that is not anxiety itself, but it talks about the anxiety, and we believe what this voice is saying. 

It creates a fortress of energy disruption around our anxiety by saying
“I can’t believe you are still struggling with anxiety.
You have to be careful or it could really get out of hand.
Your anxiety hurts the people around you.
You have to keep your anxiety a secret or people will pity you or judge you.”

We can’t even begin working on our ACTUAL anxiety and healing some of our triggers and traumas because they are all surrounded by a fortress of beliefs we have about our anxiety.

This is where the tapping phrase comes in. The tapping phrase is SO SIMPLE but SO HARD.

Basically, the voice in our head that is building an energetic fortress around our anxiety is convincing us that our anxiety is something we should be ashamed of.
And the tapping phrase stands up to that voice and says, “No it is not.” 

 

It’s time to learn the phrase. Are you ready? Here it is…
“Even though I have this anxiety, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and these feelings.”

The WRONG way to use the tapping phrase is to PRETEND you believe it. The RIGHT way to use it is to say it until you own it. Say it until you live it.

 

The phrase is meant to take the fortress around our anxiety down one brick at a time. The voice that built that fortress, I call it Voice of Fear, that voice is going to show up and defend what it built. It is going to make excuses and makes its case to keep that fortress strong.

Anticipate that voice showing up to defend what it built. 

And what did it build? It didn’t just build a fortress around our anxiety so we would never be able to work through it.

It built a fortress of SELF-HATE. It built a fortress of DOUBLED ANXIETY. It built a fortress of SHAME. And it is going to defend it. 

 

So when you say the phrase

“Even though I have this anxiety, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and these feelings,”
Voice of Fear is going to show up and point at a brick which has already been laid, point at a belief that you already accepted, and insist you maintain the fortress.
You can’t fight or argue with the voice. 

All you can say back is
“I know, but I am choosing to love and accept myself and these feelings now.”

 

Here is an example of how that could go…

You: Even though I have this anxiety, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and these feelings.
Voice of Fear (VOF): You love your anxiety? (quizzical)
You: I am choosing to love and accept myself and these feelings.
VOF: But anxiety has made you suffer. (getting indignant)
You: I know, but I am choosing to love and accept myself and these feelings.
VOF: That makes no sense. Your anxiety was making you throw up on your wedding day.
You: I know, but I am choosing to love and accept myself and these feelings.
VOF: You get so anxious at work that you almost cried in front of everyone over something SO STUPID! Anxiety made you do that!
You: I know, but I am choosing to love and accept myself and these feelings.
VOF: This is CRAP! Are you saying you are just going to be anxious all the time now? How can you get better if you LOVE your anxiety? This is the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard you say!!!!
You: I know, but I am choosing to love and accept myself and these feelings.

 

See what I mean? I am not saying this is easy, but it is necessary. This is the work of healing what is actually there and needs healing.

It might be harder on some days, but it gets easier over time, because you will become used to telling that voice you are going to love and accept yourself anyway. 

And that voice will start to fade into the background. It probably won’t disappear all the way, but you will start to become resilient to its voice.

 

Do this however feels most natural to you.
You can tap either of these two phrases:

“Even though I have this anxiety, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and these feelings.”
“I am choosing to love and accept myself and these feelings.”

I like to start at the top of the head and end at the top of the head. Make sure to breathe as you go.

Take this work one day at a time! Don’t expect to tear all of those bricks down in one day.  

Once you start combining the tapping with the next strategy, be prepared for some profound shifts in your anxiety.

 

 VISUALIZATION

I love visualization as an energy healing tool in general, and it is the perfect tool for working on anxiety. 

You can visualize yourself being overcome with the energy of peace. You can visualize yourself cutting toxic attachments from other people. 

I love all of that and do all of that, but I want to walk you down a specific path that is going to mix into something incredibly powerful with the tapping work from the previous step.

Once we have started removing some of the bricks from the fortress around our anxiety, we have a chance to look at our anxiety directly. 

This might be excruciating. 
For some of us, our anxiety is our capital “T” Trauma. 

But instead of looking at it as something we hate and are ashamed of, and instead of trying to push it out of ourselves, we are going to change the way we look at it.

This visualization exercise is derived from “Parts Work,” which is a psychotherapy practice where a person gives their emotions a persona and then works with that persona to understand its needs. The main goal of “Parts Work” is to “make friends” with all of the personas and find a healthy way to integrate all of them into ourselves. 

Probably up until now, we have not been “making friends” with our anxiety. We have been rejecting it, which totally makes sense. But I am going to show you a different way to show up and interact with your anxiety. 

 

I want you to envision yourself taking the bricks off the fortress one by one and slowly revealing your anxiety inside. I want you to imagine that the anxiety is actually a very small child who is crouching down, trembling, and crying. 

This child has been scared and alone for a long time. This small child has been surrounded by a fortress of painful and destructive beliefs, specifically about itself. 

The beliefs that imprisoned this child were that it itself is wrong, it should not be scared, and just its existence is humiliating. 

Every time this child became scared, it was shamed, abused, or gaslighted.
This child has not been comforted and reassured in years.
This child needs healing.

Start by helping this child to feel safe. Does it need a hug? Embrace it. When you begin, have no other agenda than sitting with this child and helping it relax and begin to feel safe.

Some people can feel this child resisting them. Sometimes this child does not want to trust us because we have allowed so many bricks to be placed around it.
But tell the child you are finally here to help, you want to get to know them better, and to help them feel better.

Then you can ask the child what it is afraid of, what is wrong. Get to know this child’s fears. The right way to respond to this child is affirming it. 

I know it might sound backward at first, but the truth is, if we tell the child it is wrong for what it fears, we start to put bricks on the fortress again. When we respond by telling the child it is wrong for what it fears, we are actually just responding with our own limiting beliefs that also need to be healed. 

We have to heal the child, and we do not do that by telling the child it is wrong.
First, we must AFFIRM.
We must tell the child “It makes sense you would feel this way.” 

Don’t try to control what the child is feeling. Don’t say, “I know it seems scary but this is something you have to do.” That won’t help yet. First, just affirm the child’s fears.

Then find out what could help this child when it is scared. Probably the scariest thing for the child is that it knows it will be locked away and ignored when it becomes scared, and will be surrounded by bricks programmed with the most painful beliefs, all about the child.

Ask the child what it needs. Usually the child just needs to feel loved and accepted by you. That is why we say the tapping phrase from the previous step. It is a powerful way to protect this child persona. 

Another thing this child might need is help from a mental health professional, and that is a wonderful, beautiful, healing gift you can give to yourself and this persona. If this child needs that, commit to providing it.

As you go throughout your life, this child will probably be scared again. That is ok. We must teach the child that it is safe to be scared. Being scared no longer means we will reject them. 

Tell the child “I promise I will not leave you when you get scared. I will not get mad at you. I will not be embarassed by you. I will take care of you.”

And as you go forward, when you start to feel anxiety, instead of scolding yourself or belittling yourself, think of it as the child reaching out for your hand and asking for reassurance. 

Doing inner child work will also be immensely healing for this child, so do the steps from the inner child healing post, too. Especially do the steps that celebrate and nourish your inner child, which will help keep this child persona healthy.

This radical anxiety transformation is something you deserve. We all deserve to tear down the fortress and love that little child. Good luck to you as you do this work and remember to stay gentle with yourself and honor the process.